It’s not really a crisis, but I have done a lot of reflecting on life since my birthday in July.
I came to a few conclusions:
I have chosen a few different things than I was taught to choose while growing up, such as being married with babies in a house with a garage and two cars in it by now, and I am happy to have chosen differently. I still look forward to those things someday if they’re in the cards, but I am so happy and (blessed) in my life that I can wait. And, by wait I mean be happy with how things are right now and re-evaluate again a bit later. 
Also, I want to wear a ring again. I never wore rings until I was married. I wore one for 7 years of marriage. I then separated and divorced, so have stopped wearing one for 5 years. I want to wear one, but I don’t need to keep waiting for one to be given to me. So, I’ve decided on fashion rings that are clearly not infringing upon the promise/engagement/marriage areas. I have chosen a “Poppy” ring for my first new ring.
It’s big and heavy and will look even better when my nails are painted, and I can’t quite figure out which hand I want to wear it on, but I love it. And I gave it to me, because I love me.
Also also, I am finally accepting that it’s ok to be an adult Monday through Friday from 9am to 5pm but a kid outside of work. Being an adult 24/7/365 is horrible.
And also also also, I really miss my Vermont (and Tennessee) family and would like to figure out how to incorporate them more into my life. I have tended to put an emphasis on visiting friends every time I have returned to Vermont, but when we all rallied for my maternal grandmother’s funeral I realized how awesome my family really is and that I love them so much.
Well, that’s about it for now.
Nice ring!
I’m having a similar crisis. What do I want to do, where do I want to live, blah, blah blah….
Right now I just want to take a nap.
These seem like very good reflections and I am happy that you reached these conclusions.
I like your new ring, and I’m glad you love you enough to buy it for you.
This ring and everything you said about it is a perfect example of why *I* love you, too.
It is prettiful, just like you! I, too, bought myself a ring because I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me!
There was a trend a few years ago (started by the jewelry people, no doubt) of women buying diamond rings for themselves. They called them right-hand rings. They were meant to represent all the things your beautiful poppy ring does. Only they were not as perfect for you as that one is.
Good for you for celebrating yourself. You are worth it.
@Earl I heart naps.
@CSH thank you.
@Adam thanks
@Britt aww thank you, I love you too!
@Kris we’re ring twins!!!
@Megan diamonds are reserved for Dave to give.
I love that I found a Poppy ring. Thank you so much for believing I am worth it. Love you, lady!
That ring (and everything you said) is just perfect. Honestly, a lot of this reflects some of the advice you have given me about growing up, adulthood, etc. And it was pretty darn good advice.
@Sarah thank you. And I am glad I give good advice that I might finally listen to as well.
Your ring is perfect and beautiful! I’m so glad you love yourself like that, because I think you are immensely lovable.
And I totally agree – I’m ok with being an adult from 9-5ish as long as I can still be a kid other times. I may have crossed over the line where my age starts with a 4 but I don’t feel like it, and I refuse to act like it!
Love the ring and your perspective!